I don’t enjoy small talk. I know many people who think "networking" is more painful than having a root canal. đź™‚
But, we all know that networking is very important for getting a job or running a business.
The funny thing is that the most effective way to socialize and network has nothing to do with small talk and chit-chat.
The most effective way to socialize and network is through Shared Activities. I first learned this from my organization behavior professor.
Think about it — this really makes sense. Just take a look at your circle of good friends. Did you meet them intentionally? Probably not. It’s more likely that you just naturally click with each other, and start hanging out. You might meet on the basketball court and become "basket buddies". You might both enjoy Japanese food, love to talk about stock market, and enjoy playing with technology gadgets.
So, don’t feel bad when others are busy chit-chatting and kissing someone’s rear end at a networking event. It’s more likely that the "relationship" they build would be superficial.
Be active and participating in activities/events that you’re really interested in. Interact with others through these activities that you truly enjoy. Relationships will be developed naturally. And the relationship will be more genuine, and long-lasting.
Happy "networking". đź™‚
- Read Never Eat Alone: And Other Secrets to Success, One Relationship at a Time.
- Have you been thinking about going to a Yoga class, joining Toastmaster, picking up guitar, volunteering for Habitat for Humanity, etc.? Choose one activity that youâ€™re really passionate about but have been putting off. Start doing it now! Youâ€™ll be pleasantly surprised how many new friends youâ€™ll make.